House for Sale or Rent
18 Sep 2008 04:36 pm
1 Bedroom 1 Bath House with fenced in back yard, AC, and screened in back porch.
Locatedin Cocoa, Florida
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By : Mendi | Category: Ob La Di Ob La Da Life Goes on.... | Comments [0]
Death and all his friends....
25 Jul 2008 08:26 am
No. This isn't a review for the new Coldplay album (Which is by the way IS pretty good), but more of a rant about the issues families go through after a loved one dies. As with most "issues" they can become highly combustible and the fuesl that feed it include misunderstanding, pride, greed and of course, miles and miles of guilt.
Now,with that being said, my family is currently being visited by Death and all of his friends. Last week my mother in law passed away after a long 3 year year battle with a larg brain tumor.
During this time, my husband and I took care of her. Drove her to Shands to get her surgury. My husband drove nearly 500 miles every day (after spending an entire day working) to visit his mother while she recovered. This went on for nearly a year. When she could finally come home, my husband and I bought a house across the street so we could be right there whenever they needed us (My husband's father passed away of an anuerism last year, we were also taking care of him). We made sure there was food to eat, bills were paid, doctors visited. You name it, we did it for them. After my father in law passed, we were afraid of her being alone at night, so she asked her other son to come stay with her. He did. He's not exactly the most gentle fuzzy loving type, but he was there if something happened and he could let us know.
Towards her last days, Jo (my mother in law) descided that she wanted to go stay with her brother in Alabama. My husband drove her up and got her settled in. Then every other week or at least once a month my husband would drive to Alabama to visit his mom. He would make repairs around his uncle's house and do whatever needed to be taken care of.
Here's were all of death's friends start to visit. My husband's sister got her feelings hurt when Jo originally had her surgury. We were told by the hospital staff that only 2 people in the pre-op room and they have to be 16. She his sister comes in with her 14 year old daughter and I told them that they couldn't be there. It may have been a little selfish of me to ask her to leave, but my husband and I were the ones who were taking care of everything. She'd seen her mother all morning before pre-op. Then after the surgury the nurses wanted only one family representative so that was Dave. His sister was mad that her name wasn't on the paper and threw a fit in the hospital waiting room screaming how he isn't the boss of her. My husband's sister has made no attempt to contact us about anything since then, 3 years ago!
During this time she speculated and assumed and beleived everything her mother said. Now, Jo had a super huge brain tumor. The opperation only removed a small part. They could not remove it all because it was entangled in her optic and other nerves at the base of her skull. My husband's sister , as well as many other relatives, took everything Jo said at face value. She had a brain tumor people! She didn't even know what she was saying most of the time. She could't remember things from one minute to the next and these people are going to beleive everything she says!
Well, after my husband's dad passed, we turned all his life insurance in and transfered all the stocks to Jo's name. Well, Jo tells Tami that she gave the stocks to Dave. Wells Fargo stocks that were worth a pretty good chunck of money. So Tami decides that Dave hasn't done anything but take whatever he wants. We have NEVER taken a single thing from them or that hosue. All insurance money went to Jo's bank account... all the stocks went to her name. Tami has taken all her jewelry and her collectable dolls BEFORE she even passed away. And now she's all in an uproar about how ashamed she is of him. Because he didn't go to the memorial they had in Alabama. Jo's 2 sisters and her daughter Tami tried to go against Jo's last wishes. Jo wanted to be cremated and scattered where he husband and other daughter was, in the ocean. But they tried to have her burried in a plot in Alabama. She also didn't want a funeral or memorial. Dave has done nothing but give his mother everything he possibly could.
And because of a little bit of hurt feelings that she has steeped herself in and guilt for not doing more over the last 3 years, she sees Dave as the bad guy. When all the dust settles, and death and all of his friends are gone, my husband will no longer have a sister. What a shame.
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